In my time I have known some shockingly bad health visitors, but its all too easy to take that one person and to set that as the prototype for all health visitors.
Its obviously wrong to judge a whole caring profession based on a few bad experinces. Most health visitors work that socks off in a job that really must suck at times, and yet all they get is a huge amount of grief.
I could list my bad HV experiences, but I thought lets be positive and think about all those that go that extra mile. Has anyone got a great health visitor story they would like to share......
Tuesday, 16 October 2012
Friday, 12 October 2012
The bug cycle
What cruel twist of fate decided that once kids have been knocked by a bug, they are then weaker and more likely to get the next bug that comes along.
We are currently completely sucked into the bug cycle, they just keep coming. I hope we can break this horrible cycle very soon.
We are currently completely sucked into the bug cycle, they just keep coming. I hope we can break this horrible cycle very soon.
Wednesday, 3 October 2012
Bonding with babies and me on my little soap box!
I hate hate hate hate hate the pressure that is put upon us mums to immediately bond with our babies.
So many mums seem to end up feeling like failures and rubbish mums just because they don't meet those rose tinted expectations to immediately fall head over heels in love with their baby.
It sounds awfull to say that you have'nt immediately bonded with your baby, and the guilt and fear of judgement that goes with this statement stops us mums from talking about these feelings.
Obviously babies need someone to care for them on a practical level, and over time they need someone to bond with them, so that they love them and stick with them for life.
However does it really matter to a baby if you spend a few months going through the practical motions, and taking time to bond with them?
Someone said to me that maybe us mums need to take care of ourselves first following the birth and changes that come with motherhood. The when we have recovered and adjusted a little we have more time and energy to form a lovely strong bond.
I can honestly say that I did'nt bond with my babies for several months, but that bonding PROCESS happened over time, and I now love them beyond words or reason.
Maybe being allowed some time would be much healthier for mums ( and babies in the long run).
I guess what I am saying is why can't society accept that bonding with a baby is a process and not a pressurised single moment!
So many mums seem to end up feeling like failures and rubbish mums just because they don't meet those rose tinted expectations to immediately fall head over heels in love with their baby.
It sounds awfull to say that you have'nt immediately bonded with your baby, and the guilt and fear of judgement that goes with this statement stops us mums from talking about these feelings.
Obviously babies need someone to care for them on a practical level, and over time they need someone to bond with them, so that they love them and stick with them for life.
However does it really matter to a baby if you spend a few months going through the practical motions, and taking time to bond with them?
Someone said to me that maybe us mums need to take care of ourselves first following the birth and changes that come with motherhood. The when we have recovered and adjusted a little we have more time and energy to form a lovely strong bond.
I can honestly say that I did'nt bond with my babies for several months, but that bonding PROCESS happened over time, and I now love them beyond words or reason.
Maybe being allowed some time would be much healthier for mums ( and babies in the long run).
I guess what I am saying is why can't society accept that bonding with a baby is a process and not a pressurised single moment!
Monday, 1 October 2012
Mummy proud moment
On our way for a mummy and Aidan trip to the theatre, great play, great fun, great lad, enough said!
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