I hate hate hate hate hate the pressure that is put upon us mums to immediately bond with our babies.
So many mums seem to end up feeling like failures and rubbish mums just because they don't meet those rose tinted expectations to immediately fall head over heels in love with their baby.
It sounds awfull to say that you have'nt immediately bonded with your baby, and the guilt and fear of judgement that goes with this statement stops us mums from talking about these feelings.
Obviously babies need someone to care for them on a practical level, and over time they need someone to bond with them, so that they love them and stick with them for life.
However does it really matter to a baby if you spend a few months going through the practical motions, and taking time to bond with them?
Someone said to me that maybe us mums need to take care of ourselves first following the birth and changes that come with motherhood. The when we have recovered and adjusted a little we have more time and energy to form a lovely strong bond.
I can honestly say that I did'nt bond with my babies for several months, but that bonding PROCESS happened over time, and I now love them beyond words or reason.
Maybe being allowed some time would be much healthier for mums ( and babies in the long run).
I guess what I am saying is why can't society accept that bonding with a baby is a process and not a pressurised single moment!
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